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Have you wondered how people last 10, 20 or more years together? Here are some of the secrets!
1.) Accept The Shortcomings. None of us are perfect. Some of us are sloppy. Some of us are perpetually late. It's just what happens. If a person spent 18+ years of their life a certain way, you aren't going to "retrain" them. And really, they are not with you to have a new mommy or daddy. They want a partner in life to love them the way they ARE.
2.) Admitting your wrong. Some days couples argue about stuff. This most likely is small little arguments as the couples figure out in the end. In the end of the argument if its not solved, one of them is going to notice that it's their fault for even starting about this argument. That person will tell his/her partner that he/she is sorry, and of course the other person will forgive, because if both people really love each other, both couples cannot live in lives without each other.
3.) Agree to Disagree. There are some issues that simply come down to personal choice. You like mayo. He hates mayo. There's no right or wrong there. You can try to force him to like mayo - but really, in life we are all different. We should respect each other's differences.
4.) Be Aware of Stressful Times. There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.
5.) Be Independently Happy. You love your partner, of course. But you should not rely on your partner to MAKE you happy. You shouldn't be miserable without your partner, and therefore blame your partner for making you sad by being away or not perfectly affectionate or whatever.
6.) Brush the haterz off. Don't let everybody in the relationship. It's you and him not you him and his mom.
7.) Choose your Arguments Wisely. Each time you argue, it takes a portion of the joy out of your relationship. It also shows a lack of respect for each other, that you cannot sit and discuss an issue without resorting to out-shouting each other. If your partner insists while you're driving in the car that Layla was sung by Cream and not by Derek and the Dominos, it's not worth arguing over right then. Simply say "We'll look it up on Google when we get home."
8.) Do Not Shout. Good relationships are between best friends who love and respect each other. Shouting involves intimidating or being louder than the other person to drown them out. This isn't a sign of respect by any stretch of the imagination.
9.) Don't suffocate him. Say you get home from work before he does. Don't immediately jump him with a to-do list the second he gets through the door.
10.) Forgive :) There are times that at first you think, how could he? etc. Talk to him about it openly, make sure you truly understand why he did something or said something. Try to believe him and trust him. But of course dont be stupid, if you see that he is simply being a true arsehole and he has no good reason for what he did. then leave; but, you have to make sure that its something thats actually worth you guys not being together.., Think before you argue or acuse him of something.. advice.. make sure you know what you're talking about before you confront him about a girl or whatever... tell him you love him and mean it..
11.) Foundation. Build a Solid Foundation It'll help for the future. You'll know how to please him Emotionally, Physically and Sexually
12.) I Love You. Dont forget to say "I LOVE YOU"
13.) Less of the Ex - Avoid saying too much of your ex love, say only what you are asked and nothing of not asked. Be careful not to say anything that may make the other partner jealousy and raise suspicion
14.) Staying Together. For you to last you must talk, have feelings for each other, and risk somethings just to be with the one you love
15.)Tell him how you feel. Make sure you tell your partner how you feel,and dont say things that you dont mean.
16.)Try not to say no. when ure date asks you something try not to say no
1.) Accept The Shortcomings. None of us are perfect. Some of us are sloppy. Some of us are perpetually late. It's just what happens. If a person spent 18+ years of their life a certain way, you aren't going to "retrain" them. And really, they are not with you to have a new mommy or daddy. They want a partner in life to love them the way they ARE.
2.) Admitting your wrong. Some days couples argue about stuff. This most likely is small little arguments as the couples figure out in the end. In the end of the argument if its not solved, one of them is going to notice that it's their fault for even starting about this argument. That person will tell his/her partner that he/she is sorry, and of course the other person will forgive, because if both people really love each other, both couples cannot live in lives without each other.
3.) Agree to Disagree. There are some issues that simply come down to personal choice. You like mayo. He hates mayo. There's no right or wrong there. You can try to force him to like mayo - but really, in life we are all different. We should respect each other's differences.
4.) Be Aware of Stressful Times. There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.
5.) Be Independently Happy. You love your partner, of course. But you should not rely on your partner to MAKE you happy. You shouldn't be miserable without your partner, and therefore blame your partner for making you sad by being away or not perfectly affectionate or whatever.
6.) Brush the haterz off. Don't let everybody in the relationship. It's you and him not you him and his mom.
7.) Choose your Arguments Wisely. Each time you argue, it takes a portion of the joy out of your relationship. It also shows a lack of respect for each other, that you cannot sit and discuss an issue without resorting to out-shouting each other. If your partner insists while you're driving in the car that Layla was sung by Cream and not by Derek and the Dominos, it's not worth arguing over right then. Simply say "We'll look it up on Google when we get home."
8.) Do Not Shout. Good relationships are between best friends who love and respect each other. Shouting involves intimidating or being louder than the other person to drown them out. This isn't a sign of respect by any stretch of the imagination.
9.) Don't suffocate him. Say you get home from work before he does. Don't immediately jump him with a to-do list the second he gets through the door.
10.) Forgive :) There are times that at first you think, how could he? etc. Talk to him about it openly, make sure you truly understand why he did something or said something. Try to believe him and trust him. But of course dont be stupid, if you see that he is simply being a true arsehole and he has no good reason for what he did. then leave; but, you have to make sure that its something thats actually worth you guys not being together.., Think before you argue or acuse him of something.. advice.. make sure you know what you're talking about before you confront him about a girl or whatever... tell him you love him and mean it..
11.) Foundation. Build a Solid Foundation It'll help for the future. You'll know how to please him Emotionally, Physically and Sexually
12.) I Love You. Dont forget to say "I LOVE YOU"
13.) Less of the Ex - Avoid saying too much of your ex love, say only what you are asked and nothing of not asked. Be careful not to say anything that may make the other partner jealousy and raise suspicion
14.) Staying Together. For you to last you must talk, have feelings for each other, and risk somethings just to be with the one you love
15.)Tell him how you feel. Make sure you tell your partner how you feel,and dont say things that you dont mean.
16.)Try not to say no. when ure date asks you something try not to say no
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