Lust is always mistaken as love. Lust is passion. Lust is desire. Lust is therefore not love. It can be difficult for the inexperienced to distinguish between the two emotions. Especially, in the beginning of a relationship when sexual feelings are stronger.
Love
Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.
Lust
And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.
It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.
Not Listening
Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.
When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.
Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.
Excess Baggage
Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.
Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.
Commitment Problems
With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.
In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.
Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.
Family Matters
The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate.
Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people. With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping.
Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything.
Being a Workaholic
In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone.
Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two.
To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.
YOU DON’T NEED THEM
If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.
Have you wondered how people last 10, 20 or more years together? Here are some of the secrets!
1.) Accept The Shortcomings. None of us are perfect. Some of us are sloppy. Some of us are perpetually late. It's just what happens. If a person spent 18+ years of their life a certain way, you aren't going to "retrain" them. And really, they are not with you to have a new mommy or daddy. They want a partner in life to love them the way they ARE.
2.) Admitting your wrong. Some days couples argue about stuff. This most likely is small little arguments as the couples figure out in the end. In the end of the argument if its not solved, one of them is going to notice that it's their fault for even starting about this argument. That person will tell his/her partner that he/she is sorry, and of course the other person will forgive, because if both people really love each other, both couples cannot live in lives without each other.
3.) Agree to Disagree. There are some issues that simply come down to personal choice. You like mayo. He hates mayo. There's no right or wrong there. You can try to force him to like mayo - but really, in life we are all different. We should respect each other's differences.
4.) Be Aware of Stressful Times. There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.
5.) Be Independently Happy. You love your partner, of course. But you should not rely on your partner to MAKE you happy. You shouldn't be miserable without your partner, and therefore blame your partner for making you sad by being away or not perfectly affectionate or whatever.
6.) Brush the haterz off. Don't let everybody in the relationship. It's you and him not you him and his mom.
7.) Choose your Arguments Wisely. Each time you argue, it takes a portion of the joy out of your relationship. It also shows a lack of respect for each other, that you cannot sit and discuss an issue without resorting to out-shouting each other. If your partner insists while you're driving in the car that Layla was sung by Cream and not by Derek and the Dominos, it's not worth arguing over right then. Simply say "We'll look it up on Google when we get home."
8.) Do Not Shout. Good relationships are between best friends who love and respect each other. Shouting involves intimidating or being louder than the other person to drown them out. This isn't a sign of respect by any stretch of the imagination.
9.) Don't suffocate him. Say you get home from work before he does. Don't immediately jump him with a to-do list the second he gets through the door.
10.) Forgive :) There are times that at first you think, how could he? etc. Talk to him about it openly, make sure you truly understand why he did something or said something. Try to believe him and trust him. But of course dont be stupid, if you see that he is simply being a true arsehole and he has no good reason for what he did. then leave; but, you have to make sure that its something thats actually worth you guys not being together.., Think before you argue or acuse him of something.. advice.. make sure you know what you're talking about before you confront him about a girl or whatever... tell him you love him and mean it..
11.) Foundation. Build a Solid Foundation It'll help for the future. You'll know how to please him Emotionally, Physically and Sexually
12.) I Love You. Dont forget to say "I LOVE YOU"
13.) Less of the Ex - Avoid saying too much of your ex love, say only what you are asked and nothing of not asked. Be careful not to say anything that may make the other partner jealousy and raise suspicion
14.) Staying Together. For you to last you must talk, have feelings for each other, and risk somethings just to be with the one you love
15.)Tell him how you feel. Make sure you tell your partner how you feel,and dont say things that you dont mean.
16.)Try not to say no. when ure date asks you something try not to say no
[ Valentines day is up coming, so let's now start talking about love and refreshing our feelings towards our love ones. In this connection, I'll share you something about LOVE..check this out..! ]
Finding out if what you have is true love can be tricky. Feelings must be analyzed before they can be identified for what they truly are. The best way to find out how you really feel about someone is to sit down and dissect the relationship.
Signs Of Not Real Love
Possible signs that it isn't true love are you...
1. think of your partner as absolutely perfect
2. are concerned with your needs first
3. need to spend all your free time with your partner
4. quickly became infatuated with your partner
5. tend to be jealous easily
6. can't come to a compromise after fighting
Signs Of A True Love
Possible signs that what you have may be true love are you...
1. accept your partner and their flaws
2. are concerned with your partner's needs first
3. are comfortable being apart from one another
4. slowly fell for your partner
5. trust your partner completely
6. are able to resolve a fight and grow stronger through it
[This afternoon I read an article about healthy foods by Joy Bauer, M.S., R.D., C.D.N. This is very useful to all of us, so I post this on my blog]
When it comes to diet-friendly foods that keep you feeling full for hours, your best bets include protein and fiber. Protein works because compared to carbohydrate and fat, protein takes a longer time to digest.
Fiber helps by absorbing water, and therefore, expanding in your stomach and creating a feeling of fullness. Single foods that automatically combine the two - and are less than 200 calories - include ½ cup starchy beans (for example, navy, kidney, black, pinto and garbanzo beans) and one ounce nuts or seeds.
When it comes to meal and snack combinations, your options are endless. The following menu provides a few meal ideas that fit the bill.
Breakfast: ½ cup Kellogg’s All-Bran or General Mills Fiber One cereal, plus 1 cup of cinnamon-flavored Barbara’s Puffins, and 1 cup of Skim Plus (higher in protein than other milks). *You can also use 1 cup Kashi Go Lean cereal mixed with Skim Plus.
Lunch: Large vegetable salad with 3-5 ounces grilled chicken, half cup chick peas, and low-calorie vinaigrette dressing.
Dinner: Shrimp-vegetable stir fry with ½ cup brown rice.
Snack Options (each between 100-200 calories):
-One piece of fruit + one ounce low-fat cheese
-20 almonds or 35 pistachio nuts
-Non-fat yogurt topped with ½ cup high fiber cereal.
