Lust is always mistaken as love. Lust is passion. Lust is desire. Lust is therefore not love. It can be difficult for the inexperienced to distinguish between the two emotions. Especially, in the beginning of a relationship when sexual feelings are stronger.
Love
Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.
Lust
And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.
It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.
Not Listening
Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.
When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.
Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.
Excess Baggage
Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.
Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.
Commitment Problems
With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.
In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.
Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.
Family Matters
The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate.
Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people. With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping.
Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything.
Being a Workaholic
In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone.
Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two.
To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.
YOU DON’T NEED THEM
If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.
Have you wondered how people last 10, 20 or more years together? Here are some of the secrets!
1.) Accept The Shortcomings. None of us are perfect. Some of us are sloppy. Some of us are perpetually late. It's just what happens. If a person spent 18+ years of their life a certain way, you aren't going to "retrain" them. And really, they are not with you to have a new mommy or daddy. They want a partner in life to love them the way they ARE.
2.) Admitting your wrong. Some days couples argue about stuff. This most likely is small little arguments as the couples figure out in the end. In the end of the argument if its not solved, one of them is going to notice that it's their fault for even starting about this argument. That person will tell his/her partner that he/she is sorry, and of course the other person will forgive, because if both people really love each other, both couples cannot live in lives without each other.
3.) Agree to Disagree. There are some issues that simply come down to personal choice. You like mayo. He hates mayo. There's no right or wrong there. You can try to force him to like mayo - but really, in life we are all different. We should respect each other's differences.
4.) Be Aware of Stressful Times. There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.
5.) Be Independently Happy. You love your partner, of course. But you should not rely on your partner to MAKE you happy. You shouldn't be miserable without your partner, and therefore blame your partner for making you sad by being away or not perfectly affectionate or whatever.
6.) Brush the haterz off. Don't let everybody in the relationship. It's you and him not you him and his mom.
7.) Choose your Arguments Wisely. Each time you argue, it takes a portion of the joy out of your relationship. It also shows a lack of respect for each other, that you cannot sit and discuss an issue without resorting to out-shouting each other. If your partner insists while you're driving in the car that Layla was sung by Cream and not by Derek and the Dominos, it's not worth arguing over right then. Simply say "We'll look it up on Google when we get home."
8.) Do Not Shout. Good relationships are between best friends who love and respect each other. Shouting involves intimidating or being louder than the other person to drown them out. This isn't a sign of respect by any stretch of the imagination.
9.) Don't suffocate him. Say you get home from work before he does. Don't immediately jump him with a to-do list the second he gets through the door.
10.) Forgive :) There are times that at first you think, how could he? etc. Talk to him about it openly, make sure you truly understand why he did something or said something. Try to believe him and trust him. But of course dont be stupid, if you see that he is simply being a true arsehole and he has no good reason for what he did. then leave; but, you have to make sure that its something thats actually worth you guys not being together.., Think before you argue or acuse him of something.. advice.. make sure you know what you're talking about before you confront him about a girl or whatever... tell him you love him and mean it..
11.) Foundation. Build a Solid Foundation It'll help for the future. You'll know how to please him Emotionally, Physically and Sexually
12.) I Love You. Dont forget to say "I LOVE YOU"
13.) Less of the Ex - Avoid saying too much of your ex love, say only what you are asked and nothing of not asked. Be careful not to say anything that may make the other partner jealousy and raise suspicion
14.) Staying Together. For you to last you must talk, have feelings for each other, and risk somethings just to be with the one you love
15.)Tell him how you feel. Make sure you tell your partner how you feel,and dont say things that you dont mean.
16.)Try not to say no. when ure date asks you something try not to say no
[ Valentines day is up coming, so let's now start talking about love and refreshing our feelings towards our love ones. In this connection, I'll share you something about LOVE..check this out..! ]
Finding out if what you have is true love can be tricky. Feelings must be analyzed before they can be identified for what they truly are. The best way to find out how you really feel about someone is to sit down and dissect the relationship.
Signs Of Not Real Love
Possible signs that it isn't true love are you...
1. think of your partner as absolutely perfect
2. are concerned with your needs first
3. need to spend all your free time with your partner
4. quickly became infatuated with your partner
5. tend to be jealous easily
6. can't come to a compromise after fighting
Signs Of A True Love
Possible signs that what you have may be true love are you...
1. accept your partner and their flaws
2. are concerned with your partner's needs first
3. are comfortable being apart from one another
4. slowly fell for your partner
5. trust your partner completely
6. are able to resolve a fight and grow stronger through it
[This afternoon I read an article about healthy foods by Joy Bauer, M.S., R.D., C.D.N. This is very useful to all of us, so I post this on my blog]
When it comes to diet-friendly foods that keep you feeling full for hours, your best bets include protein and fiber. Protein works because compared to carbohydrate and fat, protein takes a longer time to digest.
Fiber helps by absorbing water, and therefore, expanding in your stomach and creating a feeling of fullness. Single foods that automatically combine the two - and are less than 200 calories - include ½ cup starchy beans (for example, navy, kidney, black, pinto and garbanzo beans) and one ounce nuts or seeds.
When it comes to meal and snack combinations, your options are endless. The following menu provides a few meal ideas that fit the bill.
Breakfast: ½ cup Kellogg’s All-Bran or General Mills Fiber One cereal, plus 1 cup of cinnamon-flavored Barbara’s Puffins, and 1 cup of Skim Plus (higher in protein than other milks). *You can also use 1 cup Kashi Go Lean cereal mixed with Skim Plus.
Lunch: Large vegetable salad with 3-5 ounces grilled chicken, half cup chick peas, and low-calorie vinaigrette dressing.
Dinner: Shrimp-vegetable stir fry with ½ cup brown rice.
Snack Options (each between 100-200 calories):
-One piece of fruit + one ounce low-fat cheese
-20 almonds or 35 pistachio nuts
-Non-fat yogurt topped with ½ cup high fiber cereal.
[ As i opened the computer today, I've read an article about sleeping problem and its possible solutions. I copied and posted the solutions on my blog not just for everyone to see but for me to be always reminded as well; because, I also have sleeping problems. I'm sure, this could help us all who are experiencing sleeping problems.]
Fortunately, there are many measures besides popping pills that you can use to improve your chances of getting a good night's sleep. Here are a few:
1. Acknowledge your stressors. Consider transferring that list of items swirling around in your head at night onto a sheet of paper. This will help you feel as if you've gotten started with your tasks and let you get some rest.
2. Exercise regularly. It may seem counterintuitive, but upping your level of activity during the evening, when you think you're wiped out, will help you to gain a second wind and probably to sleep better when you do retire.
3. Avoid caffeine after mid-day. Be wary, too, of sodas and teas, which often contain caffeine as well.
4. Go to bed when you're tired. Don't spend time staring at the ceiling and worrying about how you simply must get some sleep. Get up, do something relaxing in another room, and return to bed when you're ready.
5. Learn relaxation techniques. Consciously attend to your breathing; imagine being in your favorite place (think: "Calgon, take me away!"); relax your muscles, scanning your body from head to toe - Pilates and yoga classes often teach these skills.
6. Maintain a routine. Changing your sleep schedule dramatically on Friday and Saturday nights can lead to a shift in your circadian rhythm that carries into the following week.
7. Consider melatonin. This hormone is a natural sleep aid. It appears to work particularly well for those who have trouble staying asleep, even though they may easily fall asleep. A dose of 0.3 mg nightly is recommended.
Talk with your doctor about your sleep troubles if they persist. Pain, snoring, frequent nighttime urination, or symptoms of anxiety or depression should be further assessed and may respond to other treatments.
Lota (Urdu & Hindi) is an Urdu and Hindi word for a small, usually spherical water vessel of brass or copper used in parts of South Asia.It is commonly used in daily activities like cooking or cleaning to store or transfer small amounts of liquids like milk or water.
It is also used in religious activities like Hindu poojas or for purposes of ablution prior to Namaz. When used for Hindu worships, it is often decorated with sindoor and/or turmeric powder.
Charles Eames and the Lota
Charles Eames was fascinated by the Lota and considered it significant because it has become, over its evolution, exactly right. The design of the lota addresses the need of retrieving, carrying, storing, and pouring water.
Other facts
In the South-Asian sub-continent, where cleaning with water is the usual method for maintaining personal hygiene after defecation, a lota with a spout is widely used as a container for this purpose. A stainless-steel lota with a spout"Lota" is also a very famous word in politics of Pakistan, because the local politicians are used to change their loyalities with their respective parties to others, only for their personal benifits. Interestingly the word "Lota" is become a pharase or symbolic of shames for those who changed their loyalities.
The word "lota" or the phrase "Bependi ka Lota" (literrally a "lota without a base") is colloquially used in a derogatory manner to refer to a person who frequently switches loyalties. This is because a spherical lota without a base tends to roll over in unpredictable directions when kept on uneven ground. The neologism "lotacracy" was coined in Pakistan to describe politicians who frequently switched parties.
Provisionally used as the term "sajed" many years ago, Urdu language was changed and suited for further fluency. What we then knew as "sajed" is now known as a "lota".In many parts of Bangladesh, the term "bodna" is used to describe it.
[ I researched some Feng Shui Tips for this month. These tips will serve as GUIDE in our every day living...Check 'em out!]
Feng Shui Tip # 1 :
Never give your loved one white roses. Reserve these flowers for mature people only.
Feng Shui Tip # 2 :
Display a pair of mandarin ducks to symbolize happiness and fulfillment for lovers.
Feng Shui Tip # 3 :
Never display a solo mandarin duck. This implies that you wish to be single forever.
Feng Shui Tip # 4 :
If you are single, make sure that the décor in your home is not excessively feminine.
Feng Shui Tip # 5 :
Never place a water feature such as an aquarium or desktop fountain in the bedroom.
Feng Shui Tip # 6 :
Peonies symbolize a happy love life and marriage luck.
Feng Shui Tip # 7 :
Fresh flowers in the bedroom is not conducive to harmony and love. Put them elsewhere outside the bedroom.
Feng Shui Tip # 8 :
Sleeping with the legs pointed towards the door symbolizes being 'carried out' to the netherworld.
Feng Shui Tip # 9 :
Hang a painting of a phoenix to activate career luck.
Feng Shui Tip # 10 :
Qi Lins and Fu Dogs can protect you from harm. Place a pair by the entrance with their heads facing outside.
Feng Shui Tip # 11 :
Avoid open or exposed shelves behind or in front of you in the office.
Feng Shui Tip # 12 :
Never sit with the door behind you in the office.
Feng Shui Tip # 13 :
Display calligraphy of prosperity, good luck and fortune in the east, southeast, north and south areas.
Feng Shui Tip # 14 :
A huge pile of papers on your work table symbolizes a 'mountain' obstructing good Qi from coming to you and your work.
Feng Shui Tip # 15 :
Tuck Chinese Coin tassels in books and ledgers to stimulate good business.
Feng Shui Tip # 16 :
Place a picture of a mountain behind you in the office.
Feng Shui Tip # 17 :
Tortoises are known as symbols of longevity and good health. Place tortoise items in the bedroom and by the bedside.
Feng Shui Tip # 18 :
Soften poison arrows caused by protruding wall corners by placing a potted plant.
Feng Shui Tip # 19 :
When hanging decorative swords, sabres and knives, angle the tip towards the windows or door.
Feng Shui Tip # 20 :
Guard your relationship from third party intrusion by taking away mirrors from the bedrooms.
nettle • \NET-ul\ • verb
1 : to strike or sting with or as if with nettles
*2 : to arouse to sharp but transitory annoyance or anger
Example Sentence:
You could tell by his nervous reaction that the town official was nettled by the reporter's probing questions.
Did you know?
If you've ever brushed against nettles, you know those weeds have sharp bristles that can leave you smarting and itching. The painful and irritating rash that nettles cause can last for days, but at least it is a rash with a linguistic silver lining. The discomfort caused by nettles can serve to remind one that the verb "nettle" is a synonym of "irritate." "Nettle" originated as a plant name that we can trace to the Old English word "netel." Eventually, people likened the nagging itch caused by the plant to the nagging aggravation of being annoyed, and "nettle" became a synonym of "vex," "peeve," and of course "irritate."
