•2:35 PM
I get interested in the word "jealousy" because many people are experiencing this negative emotion. When I watch news on TV, all I can see is chaos. The politicians or government officials are fighting( why?.for power or positions?). Even the ordinary people, neighbors, couples, colleagues, classmates, siblings, players etc. sometimes fight...but, WHY? Well, I'm suspecting that it's all because of LOW or EXCESSIVE SELF-ESTEEM that leads to JEALOUSY and at times causes TROUBLE.
Self-esteem reflects a person's overall self-appraisal of their own worth; likewise, encompasses both beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example: triumph, despair, pride, shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem, in (for example: assertiveness/timorousness/confidence/caution).
Where as, jealousy is a feeling of jealous envy (especially of a rival) or a feeling of grudging admiration and desire to have something that is possessed by another.
Jealousy or jealous nature may be expressed in varied manners, some shows intense reactions in the form of rage or anger while few dwell upon past regrets and grieve silently.
Sometimes, jealousy is a natural, inevitable, reaction that usually indicates longing for those things which we have lost. Jealousy can be a learned social reaction as well as innate and instinctive for genetic survival. Jealousy is experienced when something you have is taken away, something that you do not have although longing for that, but your colleague, co-partner, coworker or cell group member posses that thing or someone or something that you like or love is threatened by someone else. Obviously, jealousy increase as our desire --our desperation-- for that "thing" increases. More the difficult 'goal' to achieve, intense is the jealousy.
Based on what I've read, these are few of the major causes of jealousy;
Insecurity: Insecurity about a love relationship or insecurity about job or business: If you are very sensitive by nature and very much dependent on your job, lover, you are likely to be jealous about the person that causing insecurity in job or love. If that 'third person' --the competitor--is attractive, intelligent, successful, etc., we will be disturbed.
Suspicious tendency: Women are concerned about their partner becoming attracted to other women by sex, intelligence, and other attractions, and dissatisfaction with the current relationship however men are more concerned (than women) about protecting or re-building their egos if they are dominated by another man.
Often the causes of jealousy are more mental than physical. A bad relationship, poor self image, a history of abuse, stress, frustration and many other factors can change your overall attitude towards life which may directly impede your overall performance. Such tendencies are deep-rooted in mind and nurtured by excessive Negative Emotions.
It is needless to mention that these negative emotions are tremendously powerful. They can debilitate lives extremely quick by causing disparity in energy system, which triggers a sequence of emotional imbalance (i.e. frustration, melancholia, persistent agony, mental instability, uncontrolled anger, inferiority complex etc.), which ultimately culminates in ill health.
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